MilSpouse Military Life

This is for – England?!

As a non-mil life friend so eloquently put it recently, now I’ll REALLY have something to blog about. That’s right – More Than a Mrs. is taking its talents to the United Kingdom (prayerfully for at least the next two years)! More specifically, 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿 we’re headed to England for our first overseas PCS.


While I’ve visited various parts of the U.K. over the years, living there will certainly be a novel (and very welcome) experience. I also expect it will present quite the change from Nebraska. Can you shout “Yes!” for change? Because I sure can. Particularly because this past winter has been absolutely horrid compared to last year’s inaugural winter and I can’t wait to leave the harsh climate behind (and neither can my skin).

When my husband first told me, it was via text and I was sitting in my office at work. Initially, I thought he was pulling my leg. When I realized he was serious, I sat at my desk for an hour or so, in a stunned, completely unproductive silence.

Since then, our days have been filled with a flurry of prep-activities (international licenses, check) and decision-making and, quite frankly, it’s been a tad overwhelming (what PCS isn’t – amirite?). However, it has been the BEST kind of overwhelming. I’ve YouTubed and read fellow Milspouse blogs to my heart’s content, hoping to glean some wisdom from the pieces of information I parceled together.

But, honestly, there has also been a downside to this experience. One, we know the way of the military and that things can change. And how, similar to when I first left Georgia for Nebraska, and the genuineness of the situation finally hit my friends and co-workers, I was astounded by some of the responses I received.

Upon leaving Georgia, so many people were happy for me, but one friend/co-worker (a paralegal and receptionist at the law firm I was senior attorney at, and had grown close to) in particular broke my heart. She’d been one of a few people to brave a “snow storm” to attend my bridal shower, then went completely off the reservation when I gave my official notice. Eventually, I was able to chalk her actions up to a combination of shock among other things. I’m feeling something similar now, which is hard when your community is small.

However, one monkey doesn’t stop the show, nor does it dampen our spirits! I’m incredibly grateful to God for the opportunity that has been placed before us, and am trusting in Him to provide us with all things! What an apt application of my all-time favorite Bible verse, Jeremiah 29:11. Looking forward to prospering and continuing the ministry overseas!

Any tips you can share for an overseas PCS?

Any tips for living in England or about Mildenhall AFB?

Hit me with your best shot (resources)!

Btw, have you checked out our store yet? Visit www.etsy.com/shop/MoreThanAMrs now for some cool stuff. We’ll be going on hiatus for the move!

Living on Auto Pilot

Well, I made it to work this morning. On the other hand – I. Have. No. Earthly. Idea. How. I. Got. Here.

I have no clue. I can’t remember the hour-long drive. Not a bit of it until I made it downtown and was parking. So basically, I made it here but the grace of God and autopilot. I was so wrapped up in my own thoughts that I didn’t CONSCIOUSLY drive here. Lucky for me, my body and brain took over. Which leads to this question…

HOW OFTEN DO WE LIVE OUR LIVES ON AUTOPILOT?

That is –

How often do we find ourselves just living from one day to the next? Making ends meet? Making sure children are fed, beds are made, dinner is cooked, work is completed? But are we really living? No matter what you spend your days doing, you are serving a purpose. But are you being intentional about it? Are you making sure to keep yourself “fed” and satisfied while you do much for others?

The old adage is true – you can’t pour from an empty cup. Or rather, you can pour, but what comes out will be watery, tasteless, ineffective. We’ll be pouring out water instead of the wine God has given us the potential to manifest (if this sounds like a crazy analogy, read John 2:1-11).

I don’t know about you, but I prefer to pour out something a little more vigorous.

So, take care of you. Get off of autopilot and be a little more intentional about your choices and how you invest your time. And, if you’re still on autopilot, the good thing is that God in all of his infinite wisdom and grace will ensure that you reach your destination (relatively) unharmed.

Check out my favorite verse and His promise to do us no harm – Jeremiah 29:11. Things may not be easy, but the hardships we encounter on the journey serve only to strengthen us. So grateful He never gives us more than we can bear.

Milspouse on a Mission: From Introvert to Indisputable Boss

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From introvert to networking queen! Learn how one Milspouse mama, Tameka McGee, made the transition to independence.

Article by Tameka McGee, More Than a Mrs. Contributor

You could easily say that being a military spouse is a job in itself. Not only do we support our spouses but we also take on the challenge of supporting other military spouses and their spouses, in our community, as well.

It can be tough, I love it-but I knew I was more than that!

Hi, I’m Tameka McGee. I’ve been a military spouse for 11.5 yrs and 2 yrs ago I decided to start my own business and become more than just a Mrs.

Being a wife and mother wasn’t something that I envisioned for myself when I was mapping out what and who I wanted to be. I saw myself as a “Boss” living in a no children allowed penthouse. So when I stepped into those roles I wasn’t sure if I would be any good. Turns out, God knew more about what my heart wanted than I did.

Two boys later, lots of marital growth and a PCS overseas I was still completely in love with my life but something was missing. I didn’t want to say it out loud, because I knew what it would sound like to others, but being a wife and mom just wasn’t enough. I loved being those things, but I still wanted to be a “Boss”. A big part of who I am is serving others and being a stay-at- home mom made me feel like I was giving that up.

During the last year of our tour in England, I found a way to get back into the community by serving on my son’s elementary school’s PTO board as the President. The board was other mom’s just like me. We shared our struggles and our strengths and it was one of those moms who introduced me to Young Living.

I’d heard of essential oils before and even did some research because we’d recently started living a more natural, cleaner lifestyle but it never went past the research.

Soon though, I jumped on the oil train, looking for some sleep support. Cause you know babies don’t exactly like you to get real sleep. I never intended for them to change my life in the way they did.

Not only did Young Living give me and my family the tools to take control of our health and wellness, they also gave me the opportunity to get back to me-to the things I loved. I’m now able to help and serve others the way I want to and I’m able to work the way I want to, without feeling guilty because of the needs and sacrifices that come with being military spouse.

Network Marketing wasn’t something I’d ever considered before. I’m an introvert so I thought there’s no way this could be successful for me but I was wrong. I get to meet new people on a daily basis and connect with them in away that I didn’t think possible.

I know that network marketing gets a bad rap, but I think it’s because it’s misunderstood. For military spouses it allows us to support our husbands, add to our financial stability, raise our babies and become the “Boss” we always wanted to be our way.

It isn’t easy, but nothing worth having is.

Growing my own business from home never crossed my mind and I think it’s definitely something you should consider, if normal doesn’t work for you. When it gets hard “Rest, Don’t Quit”! That is an option you have when you are the “Boss”.

I’d love to chat with you. You can find me on Instagram at @tamekajmcgee or at mcgeefamily1024@yaho.com.

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Dealing with the stress? Tameka absolutely recommends StressAway and/or Valor for dealing with all things deployment and PCS moves.

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New Year, Same Story, Better Version

One of the first questions I ask spouses to be featured in our Milspouse on a Mission segment is “What’s your story?” In the “About” section of this Website, I briefly delve into my own story and the importance of developing your own narrative. Since we’ve now launched head first into a new year, dear readers, I now want to post that same question to you. What’s your story and what will your storyboard for 2019 look like?

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A storyboard is a panel or panels on which a sequence of sketches depict the significant changes of action and scene in a planned film, as for a movie, television show, or advertisement.

A couple of years ago, I participated in a leadership summit for young, female lawyers. One day, During a breakout session, we were tasked with coming up with our ”elevator pitch.” The term elevator pitch” may or may not be a familiar term to you. According to the ever-trusty Wikipedia:

An elevator pitch’, ‘elevator speech’, or ‘elevator statement’ is a short description of an idea, product or company that explains the concept in a way such that any listener can understand it in a short period of time (20 to 30 seconds). This description typically explains who the product/company is for, what it does, why it is needed, and how it will get done. Finally, when explaining an individual person, the description generally explains one’s skills and goals, and why they would be a productive and beneficial person to have on a team or within a company/project. An elevator pitch does not have to include all of these components, but it usually does at least explain what the idea, product, company, or person is and why it/they are valuable.

The name—elevator pitch—reflects the idea that it should be possible to deliver the summary in the time span of an elevator ride, or approximately thirty seconds to two minutes.

In sum, an elevator pitch is your story.

Interestingly enough, an elevator pitch isn’t only applicable to the business world – it also has an important application to your daily life.  As military spouses, we are afforded the rare opportunity to essentially rebrand ourselves with every permanent change of station (PCS). Each time you encounter someone new (and this will happen often), you’re selling them on the product that is you.

As we enter 2019, and what for many will be a new season, I find myself returning to this concept and rethinking my own narrative. What do I want others to know of me? What is my truth and how will I walk in it in such a way that it edifies my own life, the Lord and my husband? How can I take the best portions of who I am and share it with the world in a meaningful way.

Did you know you have the power to decide who you are? It’s as easy as substituting a positive descriptor for a negative one. No one else holds that power.

What pieces of you will you pack to take with you into 2019? What pieces will you leave behind? What will you add? And how will you (or have you) melded the pieces together to form your story? It’s something worth thinking about.

Missing You Before You’re Gone: Preparing for Deployment (Guest Post)

No matter how you try, or how many times you endure it, you can never truly prepare for a deployment. And indeed military spouses have to prepare. While your service member prepares to leave, you have to prepare for his/her absence – for getting kids ready alone, coming home to an empty house, managing the household and for serving as your spouse’s constant (albeit distant) support system. As one military spouse packs away Christmas decorations, she can’t help but think how different things will be next year – when her service member is deployed. 

Read on for the thoughts she so kindly shared with More than a Mrs. You just may identify with her.

The Government Shutdown and Your Small Business

The impact of the partial government shutdown has far-reaching effects that many are just realizing. In addition to lack of paychecks for federal workers, did you know your small business might be affected?

If you are a milspouse with your own business, know that the Small Business Association (SBA) cannot respond during the shutdown, meaning many small business won’t have access to small business loans to tide them over.

If you fall into this category, make sure to ask your bank about alternative options, including small business development centers, women’s business centers, veteran’s business centers, minority development centers and so forth. Even after business is resumed “as usual”, it could take months to recover.

Know your options!

Domestic Abuse and the Military

[Trigger warning: post is related to domestic violence, but as a chaplain’s wife, I must share. Someone might benefit from sharing their story or from reading the stories shared. You are strong. You are enough. You can walk away. 💕]

A freelance journalist (and military wife), Amanda Kippert, would like to talk to current or past military spouses who experienced domestic abuse (while the servicemember abuser was active duty) and who reported it to the military (the commander, MPs, FAP, etc.). She’d like to hear about whether or not military personnel were helpful in their response. If you’re that person or know someone who is and are willing to share your story with me for an investigative piece in a national pub (staying anonymous is OK), please email her at amandakippert@gmail.com.

(If you’re still with the abuser, please keep staying safe in mind and email Ms. Kippert from a device that the abuser does not have access to, such as a work or library computer on a secure/private/made up/friend’s email address.)

Monday Man-Crush, and a Praise Break

Greetings, readers! More than a Mrs. founder, Jennifer, here. This post will be a quick one (yes, I know the blog is overdue. Alas, life happens). As the title suggests, I’d like to convert a private victory into a public moment of praise.

If you’ve read the brief biography that accompanies the More Than a Mrs. blog, you may be aware that I’m a chaplain’s wife. Confession time and side bar: Being a chaplain’s wife does not always translate into indelible, unquestionable faith! Faith is a characteristic I continuously strive to improve, and likely will struggle with for the rest of my life, to be quite honest. Everyone has their moment and if they say otherwise, they’re either not being honest with themselves, or with you. *insert Kanye shrug*

Back to the subject at hand:

If you’ve read previous posts authored by me, you may have also been waiting on the edge of your seat for me to fulfill a promise I’ve made, at various times, to share more of my personal story (or, you may have forgotten, which is totally fine because, again, life happens). Either way, here’s the partial fulfillment of that promise.

Precisely one year ago, last week, I sold my home and moved from Atlanta, Georgia, where I had an office with a view and a “senior attorney” title, to work for the State of Nebraska…in a cubicle. I was doing good work, including assisting the governor, but the move came with a significant pay cut and an hour-long commute.

Everyone on base, it seems, knows about my commute and God has been faithful in sending tangible words of encouragement to me in the form of the angels that walk in the military community.

He also spoke to me directly in his silence, and told me to wait. God told me to wait because He always has something better in store for his faithful children. I did as he asked but, as my husband will attest, I did not do so without struggle.

Fast forward one year.

Since that time, I’ve seen a real promotion and title award above and beyond that which I had in Georgia, I’m due for an office in January, on the receiving end of “Senior Leadership” emails and, although I still have a long commute, I actually ENJOY what I’m doing.

To clarify: I’m not bragging. First, none of this came about as a result of my solo efforts. Cue “God’s Plan” (I’ve never heard the song, but the title seems appropriate).

Second, due to the nature of the military spouse life, I could literally be unemployed next year – for the next 3-5 years, or more.

That’s because milspouses often sacrifice their careers, dreams, etc., to be with the one they love and, NO we didn’t know what we were getting into. And YES, it is totally worth it. No, this isn’t a brag post. What this is, is public thank you and a reminder to myself regarding what God can do. It’s a reminder to watch Him move the next time I find myself in what seems to be an insurmountable situation, or, you know, complaining about my commute. I love my husband but today God is my #mcm.

Now, it’s your turn.

What has God done for you lately? Have you given him the praise He deserves? Take a moment where you are to make sure you’ve given Him His due. Then, feel free to share. I’d love to hear from you!

The Holidays are Coming, the Holidays are Coming: Reflections on Holidays Past (and Also, Gift Guides are Here)

The Holidays are Coming, the Holidays are Coming! Yes, this was said in my Paul Revere voice (i.e. “The British are coming, the British are coming,” in case you missed the reference). And no, “Holidays” doesn’t refer to some super cool new family PCSing to our neighborhood — although that would be an AWESOME last name to have, amirite? (*Briefly considers name change and how to get the husband on board*).

Anyway, this year flew by like a flash. Is it just me, or does time seem to speed up as we age? I had a similar conversation with a co-worker this week over lunch and arrived at the conclusion that time hasn’t developed a superpower, but rather that, as we age, we become more cognizant of time and just how precious it is. We watch classmates mature and start families (via social media, of course), our children grown up, our military spouses near retirement age, and we realize time simply slows down for no man.

I suppose retailers are picking up on this too, because they appear to be targeting customers earlier every year. I was briefly confused, for example, in October when the first Christmas commercial aired on our local television station. To be honest, the commercialism does rob the holidays of their magic. This can be especially true for military families who often face the very real reality of celebrating without one or both parents or in a foreign place. So, how do you bring back the magic?

Growing up, my mother always filled shoe boxes with goodies, instead of stockings, in a tradition carried on from her mother. She’d also wake us up early Christmas morning to listen to her read the Bible and share with us the story of Jesus’ birth. We would then head over to my grandparents’ house (grandad is a pastor) to commune with my father’s side of the family before concluding the day with a visit to our cousins and a dance off in my aunt’s living room.

Now, as the wife of a chaplain, far removed from my birth home of Mississippi, those traditions have changed. In addition to attending  Christmas Even and Christmas Day chapel services and families of the deployed events, I’m trying to find ways to create traditions for our own little family.

Does your family have special traditions you adhere to no matter where you are? Do you prearrange Skype time on Christmas day or even go so far as to bring your spouse on stick with you to all of the holiday parties? I’d love to hear the unique ways you  celebrate!

To close, let us be the first to wish you “Happy Holidays!” (in whatever form the holidays may take for you). Thanksgiving is in less than two weeks, so the timing may be okay for me to say that now. In that vein, More than a Mrs. is featured in this year’s holiday gift guide from the wonderful ladies over at Milspouse Coffeehouse. Check out their guide, as well as the products offered by a wealth of other fantastic milspouses, and find the perfect gift for the special someone in your life. Click the hyperlink above to view.

Six Flags Military Appreciation Days in November

Fall is here! Or, if you’re stationed in the Midwest like we are, Fall/Winter/Summer/Winter is here. Either way, cooler weather heralds the perfect time to visit (drum roll, please) theme parks! Personally, I’m trying to talk my husband into a trip to Disney, since the theme park giant recently released 2019 discounted prices for military personnel.

In the meantime, parks like Six Flags are gearing up to host their annual FREE military days. Yes, you read that right! FREE. If you didn’t know before, now you do. And it you already knew, this will serve as your reminder. 🤷‍♀️

According to Six Flags websites:

Six Flags is proud of the men and women of the military who protect our freedom.

In honor of the service military personnel provide, the parks will be hosting Military Appreciation Days on Veterans Day Weekend, November 10 and 11. During this weekend, there will be complimentary admission to the theme park with a valid U.S. military I.D. A special military discount will be available at the Main Gate for the active duty member’s family and friends at $36.99 + tax each.

All admission tickets must be purchased at the front gate to receive these special military discounts and a valid military ID card is required. All Active Duty, National Guard, Reservists and Retired Military will receive complimentary admission to the theme park with a valid U.S. military I.D.

Check your local Six Flags website to confirm whether this offer is available to you. Make sure to take plenty of pictures!

Community Pool: Friendships, the Milspouse and the Military

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It’s normal to desire to “belong”.

Transparent moment, here – when I’m having a bad day, it’s easy to convince myself that most of my pre-military “friendships” were superficial, with my “friends” having forgotten about me as soon as I was out of sight (aka uprooted in a PCS move).

A little background: I was a fairly introverted child/teen/young adult, even though I was heavily involved in various activities like cheerleading, Student Council, and even the yearbook staff. As a result, during my school years, I experienced occasional bouts of loneliness, often initiated when I compared my social life to [my perception of] other people’s. This, by the way, this is a big no-no. NEVER compare your life to the facade someone else is proffering as reality.

As a single adult, I attributed my bouts of loneliness to the fact that I was busy with work, and then, to fact that I purchased a house outside of the perimeter area in Atlanta, Georgia, where the bulk of my friends resided, and no one wanted to visit me (because, duh, better price for a brand new home! Who could pass that up??). Yet, somehow I still managed to meet up with friends often enough that I still felt connected.

My husband’s career with the Air Force sometimes amplifies this feeling of “loneliness”. In my darker (like, light grey dark is as dark as I get) moments, I convince myself that I can count on my fingers the number of times I’ve been contacted by my friends to see how I’m faring.  I convince myself that my text message feelers are being met with short, disinterested replies because my friends are no longer interested in my life or with sharing theirs. Of course, I reason with myself, we’re all adults and life gets in the way, but then again…we make time for what matters – right?

I think about social media and the part it plays in this weird “how do I maintain these friendships” dance. Even with family, I find that because they can essentially “check in” via Facebook or Instagram, phone calls are deemed unnecessary and texts are few and far between. My phone rarely rings these days, I think, when my husband’s phone rings. Acknowledging the part I play in this – yes, I also find myself picking up the phone less and less on my end, but that knowledge doesn’t do much to diminish the hurt that creeps up if I let it.

Worst of all – how, I wonder, will my husband and I ever properly celebrate the most important milestones – birthdays, the birth of our first child, etc. – without community?

The answer, I realize, isn’t a difficult one. 1. We have each other. 2. We take advantage of the season in which we have been planted and we build it.

As I write this on my hour-long commute to work (I know, I know), I realize that while this military life has made my “lack of friends” more evident, it’s also made it clear that the frequent moves and ever-evolving growth required by milspouse life might suit me just fine.

I’m no longer a full-blown introvert, but a blooming ambivert (Check out this Forbes article: 9 Signs You’re an Ambivert) who enjoys moments of solitude, while simultaneously caring immensely for the people I encounter. (As an aside: in light of the admission of my introvert/ambivert status, isn’t it interesting that I found myself thriving in two fields that extroverts are more readily attracted to (attorney and public relations and dance studio owner)? I see you, God!)

I’m learning to lean more on God and to relish the moments solitude. I’m also learning to be eternally grateful for the friends I do have – the ones I can count on no matter how much time passes. And, the prospect of travel aside, one of the biggest excitements I had about the military stemmed from the large community pool that results from military life and the 2-3 year uprooting that accompanies it. The pool will change over the years, the characters in it will change, repeat, change, repeat…and I must  navigate it with courage and to the best of my ability.

I know there are other military spouses who share these sentiments. That’s why, for me, “More than a Mrs.” is more than a blog. It’s a way of connection. It’s a tool to build up others and, soon, I’ll be partnering with some phenomenal people to host a variety of in-person and online community events for that very purpose. Make sure to subscribe for updates. You don’t want to miss the evolution of “More than a Mrs.”

Finally, as a chaplain’s wife, I feel compelled to throw in a plug for YOUR local base chapel. Servicemembers and their spouses often fail to realize what great resources at your disposal – in the form of your chaplains. They’re great listeners and counselors and, even more importantly, information shared with them is 100 percent confidential. If you or your spouse struggles with pervasive thoughts of loneliness or depression, make your base chapel one of your first stops. In addition to offering a listening ear, they also host a variety of free events for families of the deployed. Check your home base for more information.

Anyone else out there experience feelings similar to mine? If so, I want you to think about the strategies you use to cope and then strategize how you can do more than cope. How can you FLOURISH? 🌸🌼

Until next time!

Kicking Deployment and Taking Names: Jar of Gratefulness

“You’re in here,” I said to my husband. I held up the clear jar and shook it, rattling the pieces of paper inside around so that they plinked softly against the glass. He looked at me blankly, blinking his eyes, head cocked to the side, looking every bit the skeptic. So I explained.

I started my first jar of gratefulness approximately three years ago. It took another six months for me to become semi-serious about what was to essentially become an exercise in faith. It could be that I came across the idea in one of the many books I read that summer or it could have been the product of a quick, but very valid bout of loneliness (or it very well could have come from Oprah *insert Kanye shrug*.

Military Promotion Ceremonies: Expectation vs. Reality

My husband was promoted to Captain this past week. I could not have been more proud:

What’s interesting is that our promotions actually happened around the same time. In fact, mine came about a week before his. Although I’m sharing this information with you now, dear reader, I have yet to share news of my own promotion publicly. There’s a reason for this, and I promise to delve further into that in a future post.

But for now, I want to touch on the military promotion ceremony from the new military spouse’s perspective, plus how to prepare and our expectations vs. the reality of it.

What a Year July Has Been (Yes, You Read that Correctly)!

Hello, hello, hello! What a year month July has been – and it isn’t even over yet!

I don’t say this in a negative way at all, but it does feel almost as though my husband and I have fit an entire year’s worth of events/milestones in one month. I’ll touch on some of those things in future posts (like, the fact that it’s technicallllly our anniversary today), but for now I’ll briefly touch on the need for continued growth and personal development for military spouses and my travels last week.

Milspouse(s) on a Mission: The Women of Alpha Lambda Psi & Visionary Tonya Rankins

img_1236-1Community, support and sisters linked not by blood, but by a cause. These are all things many military spouses envision, crave and even hope for, especially when they foray into their first year of military life. Some milspouses find those things. Others find themselves constantly battling to find their way in a system that was not made for them.

After years of struggling to find their own niche in an unpredictable world, one group of women decided to forge their own community in a very special way, by founding the first military spouse sorority – Alpha Lambda Psi Military Spouses Sorority, Inc.

Milspouse With Your Own Business? There’s Something You Need to Know about Online Sales Tax.

Military Spouse BusinessThis will be one of the more practical posts on the More Than a Mrs. Blog and the first in a series of posting about launching and successfully establishing your own business. In a ruling that is sure to be confusing for many milspouse entrepreneurs, especially those who operate primarily online, the Supreme Court recently weighed in on a pivotal online sales tax case, South Dakota v. Wayfair, effectively widening the reach of sales tax to e-commerce. This is crucial if you operate a business that conducts online transactions. Here’s why.

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Military Spouse Need to Know: 10 Major Tax Changes for 2018 Tax Returns

Article by Erin Kidd, More Than a Mrs. Contributor

Even though the government is still shutdown as of this writing, tax season will roll on with no delay. The IRS has announced that tax season will open on January 28th, 2019 and that they will issue refunds, despite a government shutdown.  Currently, many forms are still in draft mode and only once forms are finalized may taxpayers file their tax returns.

The Tax Cuts and Jobs Act, passed at the end of 2017 brought the most significant tax changes at the Federal level since 1986. Every taxpayer will likely see some change to their tax return.

In addition, a major change that will impact military spouses is the newly passed Veterans Benefits and Transition Act of 2018, which further expanded on the Military Spouse Residency Relief Act to and amends the SCRA to add the following language:

“For any taxable year of the marriage, the spouse of a servicemember may elect to use the same residence for purposes of taxation as the servicemember regardless of the date on which the marriage of the spouse and the servicemember occurred.