Hi, I’m Jennifer, creator of More Than a Mrs., but “Who am I ?” is a question I’ve considered at various points in my adult life – especially since my husband joined the military. If you’re a military spouse too, the feelings I express may sound familiar. If you’re new to military life, there’s an added question – “Where in the world do I start?” Hopefully, some of your questions will be answered here.
I’m a milspouse (military spouse), yes, and am married to an Air Force chaplain. But I’m more than the terms we’re so often assigned by those who know nothing of our sacrifices (and so are you). I’m a real person – a sister, a daughter, a friend – who dons her pants one leg at a time just like everyone else (well, most people) and favors the sock, sock, shoe, shoe method when getting dressed in the morning. I can be sarcastic, I like to laugh, sometimes I cry and, like so many of you, am comprised of so many layers even I don’t know them all.
I’ll confess, when I found out my husband (then fiancé) was pursuing a military career, I was devastated, unaccepting, you name it — I was a hard sell, ok? I was sure my life as I knew it would be completely uprooted. It would be uprooted because there was no way I WASN’T (after years of refusing to follow a man ANYWHERE, you hear me) going to follow my husband, whom I absolutely adore. I planned to follow him to the ends of the earth and I had a feeling that, if following him was my plan, I’d also have to adapt to change.
In many ways, I was right. Life has changed. I’ve also found that I’m not as averse to change as I thought. Changes are, however, exactly what you make them (Tip No. 1: Learn to bloom where you’re planted).
The things I experience/have experienced may not be unique, but they have helped me realize that the terms “military spouse” or “dependent” don’t define who I am. I don’t have to own the titles other people give me.
Neither do you.
We can create our own narrative and still be just as proud of our service member and status.
So – this site is for you – spouse.
Welcome, to More Than a Mrs.